Let's get loud: Why everyone should be making more noise in bed
Unlock your pleasure: the power of being vocal in the bedroom
Let’s be real for a second—sex can be a quiet business sometimes. You know, that odd silence that creeps in, making you wonder if you’re starring in some silent film adaptation of what should be a fun, loud, and interactive experience. Well, it’s time to break the silence, people.
Whether you’re with a guy, girl, nonbinary cutie, or anyone in between, this article is your official permission slip to get vocal during sex. Because guess what? Moaning, talking, grunting—all of it—makes sex not only hotter, but also more connected and pleasurable for everyone involved.
Why Aren’t We All Making More Noise?
First, let’s get to the root of the problem. A lot of us—no matter our gender—aren’t staying quiet in bed because we’re naturally the strong, silent type. Nope. Most of us have either picked up some scripted noises from porn or keep things silent altogether. We’ve been copying what we *think* we’re supposed to sound like, instead of finding our own authentic sexual voice.
And why do we do this? Well, society (and let’s face it, porn) sells us this packaged idea of what sex should look *and* sound like. Women are expected to hit a high-pitched crescendo, while men grunt like they’re lifting heavy furniture. Anything outside of that? Too weird, too vulnerable, or maybe we’re worried it’ll "kill the mood."
But here’s the truth, my dear reader: those borrowed noises or awkward silences? They’re holding you back from fully experiencing the moment. When you tap into *your* real sexual voice, it doesn’t just enhance the mood—it makes the entire experience way more connected and intense.
The Soundtrack of Pleasure: Why You Need to Speak Up (or Moan Loudly)
It’s Hot for Everyone: Let’s start with the obvious—hearing someone enjoy themselves is, quite simply, sexy. It’s like a direct feedback loop of pleasure. You moan, your partner gets turned on, they moan, you get turned on… and suddenly we’re in the middle of a steamy, mutual moan-fest. Sounds pretty great, right?
It's Confidence-Boosting: The thing about sex is that no one wants to feel like they’re on an island. If you’re the only one making noise, it can feel like you're performing a one-woman (or man, or nonbinary person) show. No, thank you. Sex is about connection, and sound is a form of communication. If you’re feeling it, show it. And let your partner know how they’re doing. We all want that little ego boost in bed!
It’s a Two-Way Conversation: Silence can sometimes make it feel like your partner is checked out. Sex, at its core, is a conversation—a physical and verbal one. Just like you wouldn’t have a chat with someone and not say a word back, the same goes for sex. Even if dirty talk isn’t your thing (no judgment here), a simple moan or whisper can say so much.
It’s About Mutual Vulnerability: There’s this idea that showing vulnerability makes you weaker or less attractive in bed. Newsflash—that’s completely backwards. Being vulnerable—letting out sounds, communicating what you like, sharing your pleasure—is not only super sexy, but also shows deep trust and intimacy with your partner.
Okay, So What Kinds of Noise Are We Talking About?
Glad you asked! There’s no one-size-fits-all when it comes to being vocal in bed. It doesn’t have to be a constant stream of chatter or perfectly timed moans that rival those of a scripted movie. It’s about being authentic. Here’s the range:
Moaning: This is the classic one we all know. Whether it’s deep, guttural moans or softer, breathy ones, just let your body express itself naturally. Moaning is a sign of pleasure and it’s one of the easiest ways to communicate that without needing to think too hard.
Talking (Dirty or Sweet): Whether you're into raunchy dirty talk or prefer more sensual, affirming phrases like “You feel amazing,” or “I love what you’re doing,” talking during sex is another layer of intimacy. Even a little whisper in the ear can send shivers down the spine.
Encouragement and Praise: A little positive reinforcement goes a long way. “Don’t stop,” “That feels so good,” and “Yes, just like that!” not only tell your partner they’re on the right track, but also keep the energy high and connected. Everyone loves hearing they’re doing a good job, especially when it comes to sex!
Laughing and Playfulness: Yes, sex can be fun and playful too! Laughing in bed is seriously underrated. It shows you're comfortable and that you’re enjoying the moment without taking it too seriously.
How to Get Your Partner (and Yourself) More Vocal
You might be sitting there thinking, “Sure, but how do I actually get my partner—or myself—to open up and make some noise?” Easy peasy.
Lead by Example: If you start moaning, odds are your partner will follow suit. It’s like an unspoken permission slip to let them know it’s okay to let loose.
Positive Feedback: If they make a sound or say something you like, tell them! Positive reinforcement works wonders. “I love hearing you” or “That sound you just made? So sexy” will help your partner feel comfortable being vocal.
Open Up About It: Sometimes, all it takes is an honest conversation. Let your partner know that you love hearing them, and that it turns you on when they express themselves. You’d be surprised how willing people are once they know it’s a shared desire.
Create a Safe Space: If one or both of you feel shy or awkward, it helps to set the tone that the bedroom is a judgment-free zone. If you’re worried about sounding weird or "doing it wrong," just remember—there’s no wrongway to express yourself during sex.
Let’s Make Some Noise, Together
Ultimately, sex is meant to be fun, expressive, and loud! Being vocal is just another way to connect with your partner and heighten the experience for both of you. Whether you’re moaning, talking, whispering, or just sharing your pleasure, it’s all part of the beautiful, messy, sexy symphony that makes sex so amazing.
So, next time you’re getting down to business, don’t hold back. Let your partner and yourself hear how much you’re enjoying the ride. Because when everyone’s making more noise, the experience is all the more electrifying.
And honestly, isn’t that what we all want?
Now go out there and make some noise! Literally.
