Don’t Make Others a Priority If to Them You’re Only an Option
Stop Settling for Someone Who Keeps You on Standby
You are not a backup plan, a convenience, or a last-minute thought. So why are you treating people like a priority when they only see you as an option? It’s time to stop making excuses for half-hearted effort and start demanding the love and respect you deserve. Because the right people? They choose you—every time.
Let’s get one thing straight: You are not a consolation prize. You are not the second-string quarterback, the backup singer, or the “just in case” plan. You are a goddamn priority—at least, you should be.
So why are you chasing after people who treat you like a maybe?
Why are you bending over backward for someone who only reaches out when they’re bored, lonely, or need something? Why are you the one clearing your schedule, rearranging your life, and investing your energy into someone who, if we’re being really honest, wouldn’t do the same for you?
Love Shouldn’t Feel Like Begging
I know what you’re thinking. But what if they just need time? What if they’re bad at expressing feelings? What if I can prove I’m worth prioritizing?
Oh, sweetheart. No.
Love—real, healthy, mutual love—doesn’t come with conditions that require you to prove your worth. If someone cares about you, you won’t have to guess. You won’t have to chase. And you sure as hell won’t have to beg.
If you’re the one always initiating, always making an effort, always waiting around for them to notice you—newsflash: They already made their choice. And that choice wasn’t you.
Stop Romanticizing Half-Hearted Effort
I hate to break it to you, but if someone really wants to see you, they’ll make it happen. If they really value you, they won’t keep you in a cycle of mixed signals, canceled plans, and empty promises.
You deserve more than half-assed texts and late-night, last-minute “you up?” messages. You deserve more than being someone’s emotional support system while they treat you like an afterthought.
So stop excusing their behavior. Stop telling yourself, Maybe they’re just busy. Maybe they’re scared of commitment. Maybe if I wait a little longer, they’ll change.
No, darling. They won’t. And even if they do, why should you be the one waiting in the wings while they figure it out?
Choose Yourself for Once
It’s time to put that same energy you’ve been giving them back into yourself. It’s time to stop making people a priority when they don’t even put you on their list of considerations.
Because here’s the thing: The right people? They don’t make you wonder where you stand. They don’t leave you questioning your worth. They don’t treat you like an option when you’ve been giving them VIP access to your life.
So walk away from the one-sided relationships. Step back from the people who don’t see your value. And if you’re scared of being alone—guess what? Loneliness in your own company is still better than the loneliness of feeling unseen in someone else’s world.
You deserve someone who chooses you. Every time. Without hesitation. Until then, choose yourself.
And never—ever—settle for being just an option.
